Counselling for Men
'In February 2014 a survey completed by a focus group of 250 BACP members revealed that compared to five years ago, 62% had a higher percentage of male clients. In addition to this, 72% agreed with the statement that ‘men are more likely to see a counsellor or psychotherapist now than they were five years ago’.
Extract from BACP Media Release. http://www.bacp.co.uk/media/index.php?newsId=3462
I have included this separate page for several reasons.
There is growing realisation that the popular misconception that men don't want to talk about their feelings is not the whole picture. It may be true for some, but many men do.
What is often missing is the opportunity to do this and be listened to. I hope that in running my practice as I do I give as many men as possible the opportunity and choice to talk, be listened to and hopefully change.
Alongside my usual list of topics that I work with some issues/problems are often seen as not relating to men when they most certainly do. These issues include but are not limited to:
- Abuse (Emotional, Physical or Sexual)
- Child loss
- Pregnancy and birth
Some men are often very reluctant if ever to show any feelings, let alone talk about them. The only exception many men and experience of showing or sharing them is at a sports match. More feelings are probably demonstrated by men at football matches than any other event in Scotland.
Many people have been brought up with the 'boys don't cry' script, been told to 'keep your chin up' or 'just get on with it' and/or taught not to show emotions.
As men many of us still live in a culture where men talking about emotions or physically showing our feelings is not always supported by our partners, family members, local communities and work environments. In some communities it is still sadly more acceptable to hide your feelings behind unhealthy practices including alcohol abuse, drug abuse, over work, displays of physical violence and physical illness.
Many men struggle with the concept of coming for counselling. They feel uncomfortable talking openly about what they may perceive as failure. Often men believe that no other man that they know have ever spoken to a counsellor. From the statistic above that is no longer as true as you think.
I know all of these things not only from professional experience but from my personal life. I have been the nervous wreck phoning for an appointment and then wondering what was going to happen.
I provide counselling for men in an environment which is both discreet, conveniently located and I offer flexible appointment times. Many people have irregular work patterns so I work into the evening to accommodate this, as well as appointments on a Saturday.
I now see more male rather than female clients these day which is more normal in therapy.
I want to build a working relationship with you so that you feel relaxed and comfortable enough to talk about what is going on for you. Once we get there it will give us the chance to work together to explore the choices available and what you feel is right for you.
I offer you the knowledge that as a man I have been in the situation of being a client. I know how I felt and how difficult that was for me as a Scots' man who didn't do feelings! Get in touch when your want support to change something. It can happen.
Telephone 07821 731811